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I don't like being food-shamed. When someone sees me eating a soft cookie or an ice cream cone and feels the need to comment on my eating habits, first of all it really upsets me because being food-shamed sucks, and second of all, between the body image problems and the disordered eating problems and the braces, frequently when someone says "I can't believe you're eating that", I am too embarrassed to say that it's all I've eaten that day.

Yeah, it's a peanut butter cookie. It's probably about 300 or 400 calories. And it's the first thing I've eaten today. And thanks to your comment? I'm probably not going to be able to force myself to eat anything else today.

So thanks for that.

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My general response: "I can't believe you said that." Generally, it shocks people into keeping their judginess to themselves.

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That's what I was thinking, too.

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This is one of those things that I think my own issues around are so profound that it's hard for me to do anything sensible.

Kind of like my sister and her perception that people are always looking at her teeth and skin and judging her. I daresay I overreact to people's comments about my food just because I literally Have Issues.

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I overreact too - I once didn't talk to N for a full two hours because he said something joking about what I was eating. Blah. Why people can't just keep their big mouths shut I have no idea.

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Yes!

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I recommend holding the cookie above your head and yelling at the top of your voice, "I CLAIM THIS COOKIE IN THE NAME OF THE QUEEN!" (or possibly, "AS GOD IS MY WITNESS, I'LL NEVER GO HUNGRY AGAIN!") (or possibly, "BY THE POWER OF GREYSKULL, I... HAVE... THE... COOKIE!") and then eating it as fast and obnoxiously and loudly as possible, but possibly that's just me.

Also, jesus, what a douche-waffle asshat. I hope your response was something along the lines of "I can't believe you're a judgmental douche-bag who presumes to know what's best for a relative stranger, but there you are."

Much sympathy. I hear you'll be in our neck of the woods soon, where hopefully there will be much less assholery in your life.

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It happens more often than you would think. :/

One person who did this later realized that I just don't reliably remember and spent a lot more time urging me to eat, making sure I'd eaten, etc, which was nice, but it's still actually kind of traumatic that it happens at all. :P

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Also, I think I like "By the power of Grayskull". It will definitely work brilliantly with ice-cream cones.

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Or perhaps "It is finally mine! MIIIIIIIIINNNNNE!!!!!" *maniacal laughter*

Most people, even douchwaffles, are unwilling to engage with maniacal laughter. Not that I would ever do this, you understand. Nope. Not me. Not even for caramel-chocolate-pecan-muffins. In the convenience store. Nope. Nope nope nope nope nope.

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Ugh. I know exactly how you feel. In my case, no one even has to say anything. Just my noticing them noticing my eating sets my mind racing. It's an awful feeling.

Seriously though, whoever said that to you was being an asshole.

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This is MY cookie! You can't have it! Get your own!

You're just jealous because I've got the cookie!

C is for cookie -- good enough for me (followed by cookie monster massive NOMMing attack)

Done loudly and theatrically, it makes them look ridiculous.

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Good god... I must look like the homicidal maniac half my office thinks I am, because no one gives me shit for eating cookies or ice cream or anything else nommy.

(I should have said this in the first place) I'm sorry anyone has the gall to say anything to you about it.

Edited Date: 2011-06-01 10:29 pm (UTC)

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"I can't believe you came out in public dressed like that."

"I know, right? They charged how much for this dinky little thing?!"

"After all I've been through, neither can I."

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Once, I had a particularly officious dipshit woman (a total stranger) GRAB my fucking wrist to read my medical ID bracelet, and then crow loudly (and in a triumphantly critical voice) 'You're DIABETIC! YOU shouldn't be eating that muffin!!!!!!!'

I looked at her, and then shrugged and handed her my wallet and cell phone and said "Yeah, and my blood sugar was at 42 - when I go into convulsions in a few minutes, you'll be here to hand the wallet and phone to the paramedics, right? or ARE YOU GOING TO LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE SO I CAN SELF-MEDICATE WITH THIS FUCKING MUFFIN AND FORESTALL THE DRAMA, YOU FUCKING, KNOW-NOTHING HARPY?"

I was LIVID and about ready to commit violence.

I really hate people sometimes

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Yeah--the low blood-sugar thing is a complication that officious bystanders are often unprepared for. :)

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The capper?

She told me I didn't 'need to be nasty about it'.

O.o

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Ahahah. So knew NOTHING about hypoglycemia, then. Stupid cunt.

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Wonderful! People who fukk with hypoglycemic diabetics deserve every bit of low-blood-sugar-crazed payback we deliver!

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Who the fuck DOES that?!

Seriously, I'm baffled. Nobody has ever had the temerity to do that to me.

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I'm fat--and food-shaming is not as common as some other rude comments, but I have had strangers people on the grocery line comment that I am being "good" or "naughty" (what a word choice!) depending on what I am buying. "Do you need that?" or "I can't believe you're eating that!" is more likely to come from acquaintances--or friends and family, but mine are sane, and I have worked to let them know how I feel.

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That kind of shit is so appalling. No one deserves it, and when you have a history of disordered eating-- People really do believe this kind of thing helps people live healthy lives, when actually I've only ever known it to do the reverse.

I found that mentally rehearsing what I might say in such a situation helped me when it actually came about, though YMMV.

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