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Patrick Stewart on the legacy of domestic violence.
Everyone should read this.
Most abusers seem perfectly nice to strangers. Many of them have admirable qualities that leave their families at sea--how do you respect and emulate the good qualities while still holding them accountable for the fact that they are hurting the people they ought to protect?
How do you deal in later life with the fact that as a child, the examples you were given for adult behaviour were inappropriate or even twisted?
And how do you deal with the fact that in many cases, the default position of the people around you--except the people who've been there, the fellowship of the broken--is that you should focus on the happy memories, or that violence and abuse are private matters that shouldn't be spoken of?
I am really glad that Patrick Stewart has spoken out, and so eloquently. No shame. But most of all, no silence.
silk_noir:Patrick Stewart on the legacy of domestic violence.
Everyone should read this.
Most abusers seem perfectly nice to strangers. Many of them have admirable qualities that leave their families at sea--how do you respect and emulate the good qualities while still holding them accountable for the fact that they are hurting the people they ought to protect?
How do you deal in later life with the fact that as a child, the examples you were given for adult behaviour were inappropriate or even twisted?
And how do you deal with the fact that in many cases, the default position of the people around you--except the people who've been there, the fellowship of the broken--is that you should focus on the happy memories, or that violence and abuse are private matters that shouldn't be spoken of?
I am really glad that Patrick Stewart has spoken out, and so eloquently. No shame. But most of all, no silence.